Lacking Success? Let's Get Uncomfortable

Disclaimer: there is a surprise at the end.

How many times you told yourself, your spouse and most commonly, your friends, that you're gonna smash it next year?

We've just stepped into the last quarter of 2024, how many resolutions set on the 1st of January have you accomplished?

If the answer is close to nothing, this letter finds you at the right time.

I'm here for nothing but to help you understand why 10 months have passed by and there is not so much accomplished. As always, without judgements, just constructive revelations.

Who were those resolutions set for?

To answer this question, you need to let go for a few moments of your ego and social status and just be purely authentic.

Say your goals were to get a new Mercedes, move into a bigger house, 2 long holidays and get another better paying job.

There is nothing wrong with any of them, if they are serving yourself. What does this mean? You're not going to show off to your friends, colleagues or on social media.

They are simply meant for you, your spouse and kids, to enhance the way you're experiencing life.

Even if you're losing the car or job, breaking your phone, downgrading your home, you are as valuable as before.

Why did you choose them?

As you can see, the examples I gave are related to material accomplishments for a good reason.

At this point, I want to point out to the intention behind those goals. What do you want to gain once you have all those things?

Would you feel more valuable? More successful? Would they finally bring inner peace and stability? Is your reputation going to skyrocket?

If the answer to any of the above questions is yes, frankly, you are not on the path towards success and freedom.

Any material thing can be taken, stolen and destroyed. Don't attach your inner values to anything from the outside.

I've been on that path almost my entire life, chasing more money, better cars, better jobs, more friends, better relationships. It led me to nothing but lack of purpose, values, anxiety, more fears and depression.

Why? Because every time I accomplished a goal, I was afraid of losing it. I thought I'd be a loser, because there was so much propaganda of being successful without losing.

Start with self-development

The moment when my mentally pain, fears and judgements started to fall apart was the moment I started to let go of anything I had in the physical life and dove into my inner self.

There are a few traits I have developed at first which kept me going onto this path:

discipline
patience
open mind
courage
let go of what others say or think
being quiet

Each of these traits contributed to my desire to finally get out of my comfort zone to feel what growth really means. And there still was pain, tears, fear, but way less impactful compared to when they were created by the mind.

Comfort zone means you know mostly everything about a specific area. When you feel that, the time to grow has come.

Being protected doesn't help

As a child, my family didn't have much money, and even when they've struggled, they've always managed to keep me away from feeling anything.

It sounds like a good decision not to let your child suffer. But on the other side, the child doesn't understand that the life also means pain, hard times and losses.

When I was around 19, I simply didn't care about anything. I was smoking, drinking, partying, playing video games all night long, eating junk food, not giving a fu*k about consequences. Because I've never seen them, as I've been protected.

Instead, what I've realised on the past years, to grow as an individual, you must face fears, pain, struggling, until they won't feel like that anymore.

The fastest way to freedom is going alone through hell, with someone to watch and guide you from afar.

Common excuses for remaining in the unpleasant comfort

"I’m Too Busy Right Now" - frankly, the things keeping you busy are not the one to lead you towards success, because you don't feel successful at this moment. Slowly get rid of them and replace them with new ones according to your current needs.

"I Don’t Want to Fail" - failures come with an incomparable amount of learning. Success comes because of failure.

"It’s Not the Right Time" - I've been a perfectionist, and I've lost many opportunities. In this case, quantity over quality will certainly take you farther, faster.

"What If I Look Stupid?" - another lesson I've learned along this way: only people below you are going to consider you stupid. Let them be them, and let yourself be you and grow, we have all the right to act however we consider.

"Things Are Fine the Way They Are" - if you are reading this letter, realise that you don't want a "fine" life when it has so many experiences to offer.

"I Don’t Have Enough Money" - it's not the case anymore, YouTube, ChatGPT, these letters are free, full of knowledge and step-by-step guidance.

Be aware of preconceptions, if things were a certain way in the past, they don't have to be the same today.

The fears I went through

Since I am an adept of examples, I want to share with you some fears that have helped me enormously.

1) Approaching a girl in the gym. I was scared I'd be associated with the other weird guys hanging out in the gym. But there was one girl who set me on fire for the first and only time to do that.

After 3 months I got the courage to say "hello". The outcome? She became my fiance (by the time I'm writing this).

2) Applying for the next job. Lacking confidence, I kept delaying the moment to look for a better company. I thought I'd rather learn more. Again, when I had enough of my manager I started to apply. I had 3 interviews, got a "yes" for all, and fortunately, I chose the best one which I'm still working with.

If you ever feel ready for something, you did it too late.

3) Start writing. I was afraid of what others would say and not knowing anything about how to write. Leaving my perfectionism apart, I simply started to give what I could. And now, looking back, I don't see another way except of just starting it.

4) Launching a start-up business. I've always dreamed of developing a product, gathering an amazing team and see people worldwide enjoying it. But I was afraid of failure.

Recently, I've made the first big step towards this dream, launching Just Overload. Who's this app for?

Those struggling to gain muscle
Busy people trying to get the most of their workout with minimum time
Persons who lack confidence, since fitness plays a big role besides the inner peace I am promoting
Parents or grandparents who want to take their health seriously and say stop to their physical pains

I'm serious when it comes to hypertrophy (building muscles), and I see more and more people not having results even after several years of training. This is where the surprise I mentioned in the beginning comes into play.

In the last month, I've been working on a valuable, short and concise guide to help you better Understand Hypertrophy.

It's free to download, you only need to enter the required password: muscle-growth

Letter's Quest

First, it's important to become aware of the areas you feel comfortable. Job, relationships, marriage, reading? See how can you start doing better and make that area slightly uncomfortable.

Speaking about discomfort, I challenge you for the next week to tackle down some fears, small or big, it's up to up.

Do not forget to break it down whether it's too scary to look at. Some examples would be:

Scared of what people think? Share something not so common anywhere online
Being underpaid? Start by looking at open positions, understand the market
Disliking actions in your relationship? Understand why does your partner do that
Exhausted after taking stairs? Plan one daily walk

After facing every obstacle, fear, discomfort, never forget to watch yourself and see how much more you can actually achieve. Be grateful for any success, where your successes can only be defined by you.

Never stop dreaming, you only have so many days to make them a reality.

Until the next letter, I wish you success in everything you're up to!